How to write a Love Letter

How to Write a Love Letter

Writing a love letter can be a challenge even for an intellect; the mind is boggled up, so many thoughts but no idea of putting them together. We have the emotions but don’t know how to express them in words? Keeping in mind this we have provided examples of love letters, templates and examples to help you in love letter writing.

Love Letter Writing Tips

How to Start a Love Letter

To start a love letter can be tricky, it is a problem if you have lots of ideas and it is a problem even if you have no clue. But like most other formal letters you can start with a salutation, date and the reason for writing. You can also give a naughty or romantic title to the letter, a romantic letterhead with your name and fictitious title, address and so on.

Analyse your feelings – Though love is only a four letter word but its meaning is varied and at times hard to comprehend. For some of us it is a feeling and for some, it is a commitment. Everyone has his/her perception of love, which is why you need to analyse your emotion. Your definition of love may not be compatible with the one you love. In excitement we also tend to say big things which we may not live up to. In this process we give hopes and dreams only to shatter them. Then there is ‘True Love’, ‘Infatuation’ and ‘Physical Attraction’. To avoid any misunderstanding it is vital to have an understanding as to what your relationship stands for? Once it is clear then you can write clearly and accordingly.

Romantic Letterhead – A bit unconventional but none the less effective. You can create your own personal one with the help of internet or images from the newspaper. You can ask your friend if he has the skill to produce one with help of image editors. This effort of yours will impress your beloved and it will be recognised and appreciated by her. You can use romantic lingo to come up with a letterhead, address and your title, if you intend to.

Salutation – Salutations used in romantic letters are different from the ones used in formal letters. These are appreciative and meant to impress. You don’t need to include the full name you can use the pet name or no name at all. Though, there are no fixed rules to salutations in romantic letters but one should be careful when using these as some salutations are more suited for a committed relationship and some for varying depth of relationships. It is possible that you are in a casual relationship but still use terminology which committed couples use. So it is important that you do not pass on something unintended and cause wrong impressions. Evaluate your intimacy, your interaction then use the salutations.  

Some of the salutations:

• Beloved
• Beautiful
• Dearest
• Most Cherished
• My Darling
• My Dearest
• My Most Beautiful
• Wonder of My Life
• The Love of my life

Date it – Date your Love Letter in any manner it pleases you. Date is of importance because it puts a historical value on the letter. The letter may be remembered and read again and again. People like to keep these letters as a treasure of memories of long gone moments.

Mention the reason – When the recipient receives a romantic letter, there is an anticipation regarding what is in the letter and why has it been written. There is also an enthusiasm upon receiving the letter. Respond to this emotion and mention your beloved your reasons for writing. You can use sentences like ‘I am having sleepless nights’, ‘Just couldn’t do without telling how much I love you’, ‘It is hard to keep your feelings to yourself’, ‘I feel lost without you’, ‘I don’t know what to do without you’, ‘I really don’t get enough of you’, ‘I know I love you but I don’t mention it much to you, so..’ etc.  

• Drafting – Drafting also comes in use when writing a love letter. Drafting here is useful because you don’t want to convey something unintended. While writing in a flow you may write something which is acceptable to you but not to the recipient. It is wise to use a word editor on a computer as it is convenient. But if you are comfortable with handwritten drafts, then go ahead. Make a list of her character, her personality, her physical characteristics and anything worthy of appreciation. Use her qualities in filling the content of the draft and refine it later on. You may not be able to do it in one go, so take a timeout and go at it after some time.

• Focus on Positive Points – Your love letter is a letter of affection and not a critique. Forget any grudge, complaints, criticisms and or ambivalent remarks. Use the list of her positive qualities to praise her. Applaud her achievements, small and big and make her feel proud of herself. Don’t bring any negative emotions by mentioning any unpleasant situation or belittle yourself unless that is the purpose of your love letter.

• Inspire yourself – It happens many a times that you are not able to come up with matter that you consider suitable for writing a romantic love letter. To overcome this difficulty you need to stimulate yourself so that your creative juices flow. Inspire yourself with anything that stimulates your thought process. The recipient can be a source of inspiration itself, think about the person and write down your opinion. Look at a picture of your loved one or go to places where you often hang out. Anything which is reminiscent of the recipient will conjure memories and feelings waiting to fill your mind.

• Pour out your emotions – Love letter is a ‘No Holds Barred’ affair, you can pour out all your emotions. Don’t keep them inside, this is your chance to express them, make the most of it. There is no limit of words and there is always something that you miss out. The amorous words form the basis of your letter and these are the one’s which are mainstay of any love letter. Express yourself in as detailed manner as possible especially if you are writing to a female as they love to be adored. Avoid boisterous statements or make them appear as they are so that they can be recognised and not misunderstood. Avoid any fake emotions as you may not be able to live up to it, be sincere and focus on your feelings. A love letter is a romantic and passionate expression of your emotions, conform this to your letter.

• Appreciate – Everybody loves appreciation and if it is a woman she will always be anticipating the words of praise. Make her feel special by showering her with appreciation. Ask yourself, what you like the most about the receiver? It can be her beauty, charm, humility and or combination of various other qualities. The word ‘You’ puts a lot of stress on the appreciative qualities of the person. So use it often, like ‘You are like candle in the dark’, ‘You truly complete me’, ‘How lucky to have someone like you’ and other phrases to show your appreciation. Balance your appreciation, neither too much appreciation of physical beauty nor of personality traits.

• Recall the moments – Nostalgia is an emotional instrument and here its purpose is to show your association with the recipient. Share your memories even if they are minuscule. Relive the moment and let the recipient experience it too. Describe the moments - when you first met? When you confessed your love? When you wrote the first love letter? What you feel when you see the person? And many more which come up in mind. These anecdotes show your love and the importance you give to these events. These are unique moments in your life and you treasure them as much as you cherish the recipient.

• Handwritten or Typed – Handwritten letter on a paper is an effort that makes your letter stand out. Most of us are used to typing a letter on a computer, though it is an effort but handwritten requires more effort and as such will be more appreciated. Besides, you will need to decorate the paper letter with stickers, drawings and other decorative material which shows your sincere effort. Those of us who don’t have a good handwriting can type the letter on a computer using any stylish fonts.

• Be innovative – Love letters are not supposed to be mundane, make them stand out and keep on innovating your love letters. It is a delight to see something unique so surprise the recipient and show your calibre. You can use paper art to put a visual effect, you can get the relevant books from library or form the internet. Even the methods of delivering the letter can make them unique. Deliver it secretly or routinely with certain element of surprise and or anticipation. You can place the letter in places which she frequently uses like her drawer, mirror, kitchen shelf, under the pillow etc. You can add a special touch to your letter by sealing the envelope with wax. Stationary stores have sealing kits which can be used or you can simply light the candle and carefully drip a small puddle of wax about the size of a quarter over the flap. Use Priority Mail or Special Delivery to deliver the letter.

• Make your letter attractive – Whether handwritten or typed, whether paper mail or electronic mail, a love letter is a special letter. If you are confessing for the first time or apologising you need to add some extra efforts to achieve your objective. If you are writing a joyful letter use love themed paper, you can also decorate the empty spaces of the letter with stickers and other decorative items. If your love letter is a sober one, you can use themed items, create your own one or get ideas from the internet. Even e-mails can be decorated with themed backgrounds and other graphics which can be used just like the conventional mail. Even the envelope can be decorated to show the mood. You can use the recipient’s favourite colour in text, paper, background or envelope. The letter can also be delivered in the form of a scroll, tied with a piece of nice ribbon or string. You can insert certain objects in the letter which are thin and lightweight like petals from a flower, sprinkles of stars or any other tiny objects which will show your extra effort. If you don’t fancy such decorations you can write the letter calligraphy.

• Snail Mail or Email – Receiving a love letter in your conventional mail box has a romantic feel to it. It is a sort of tradition; it has been mentioned in literature and has been shown in many movies. Its only flaw is its delivery time. Email on the other hand is instant but it lacks certain conviction and is still to become a norm for communicating love. Email is largely a cheap effort as compared to the conventional one.

• Practice makes a man perfect – Practice love letter writing even if they get rejected or looked down upon. The more you write the more better you will become at this art. Not all of us are genius at writing. Additionally, you may not be able to write everything you wanted to because of inexperience and immaturity. Though, there is no end to perfection, you can write a good love letter with its practice alone. Keep writing and mailing, the more experienced lover you become the more experienced will be your approach and experience.   

How to end a Love Letter

Just like the beginning is meant to be interesting; the end has to be appropriate. You can create your own romantic valedictions and subscriptions. But most importantly your closing should sum up the whole letter. You can use ‘One Liners’, ‘Phrases’ and or ‘Funny Quotes’ to add humour. Some of the quotes and wordings may sound foolish or weird to you but your loved one will treasure each word and will even remind you of this. Conventionally and traditionally you can put lipstick kiss on the paper, spray the recipient’s favourite perfume or cologne or trace your hand on the back of the letter so that the other person can place his/her hand on the traced one.

Some of the suitable wordings to close the letter:

1. Dream of me, my love...
2. I am so happy you are in my life.
3. I can’t wait to grow old with you.
4. I will always love you, no matter what happens, through thick and thin. I will be absolutely true and faithful to you forever.
5. My love for you will never end.
6. What you want is a simple, yet heartfelt goodbye.
7. You mean the world to me.
8. You’re the best thing that happened to me.
9. You are my best friend and soul mate and I will love you until the end of our lives.

Some of the valedictions or subscriptions:

1. All my love
2. Forever yours
3. Kisses
4. Love
5. Love Always
6. Missing You
7. Wish you were here
8. With love forever
9. With undying love
10. XOXO
11. Yours
12. Yours Forever

• Proofreading – Read your letter carefully once you have completed it. While certain spellings can be considered acceptable like ‘Luv’ instead of ‘Love’ and others. You love letter will be read over and again and may also be shared with recipient’s peers etc. So don’t make mistakes which may spoil the mood. Give yourself a day’s rest and then read your letter again. You can read it to your friends to get a second opinion.

• Don’t Delay – Timing of a romantic love letter can make a lot of difference in your love letter. A delayed confession or late apology can hinder your love prospects. So if you feel apologetic do so and if you feel like saying out your heart, just do it then and there. Romantic tragedies like a partner getting married to someone else and breaking of relationships due to clashing egos do happen in real life. So don’t delay your love letter, do justice to it.

Love Letter Writing Formats

Love Letter Format 1

Love Letter Format 2